God loving me-the ultimate answer

I believe that if I can grasp onto the fact that God genuinely loves me and hold onto that, really Him instilling it in me, that I can be successful. My measure of success will change from having the best relationships with people, husband, parents, children, sisters, friends to being secure in Christ and being able to relish in the fact of being loved.
I think that out of that will flow what is suppose to happen. That naturally I will be able to love others with more purity and without feeling like they need to change to what I want them to be. The true adventure is being able to relax and allow God to love me and to not squirm and just get busy doing the stuff that should naturally flow out of relationship.